Tuesday, September 3, 2013

Ten Things I've Learned From My Kids

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For almost everyone, school is now back in session.  Each day, our kids are busy learning (we hope!).  They are studying numbers, words, science, and history.  They are learning about social dynamics and following directions.  Hopefully, they are filling their minds with lots of valuable knowledge.

A couple of weeks ago, when we were on the brink of this new school year, I read this post from AnnMarie who blogs over at Tidbits From The Queen of Chaos.  In it, AnnMarie writes about the things she has learned form each of her children.  Her post inspired me.  As I send my children off each day to learn new things I began to think about all the things I have learned from my children and from motherhood.  So, for today's Tuesday Ten, here are . . . .


Rachel has taught me:
1.  Determination - When she sets her mind to something, she will not let it go until it is accomplished.  For example, she LOVES animals and has plans to become a zoologist.  At age 7, she learned that eating meat meant killing animals and decided to become a vegetarian.  She has stuck to it now for almost four years.  I realize that I may be a little biased, but I don't know many eleven year old kids who can "stick to their guns" that way.  It's impressive and reminds me to not give up.
 2.  Self confidence - I'm not always the most self-confident person.  However, Rachel is.  She is not concerned what others think of her outfit or her decision to be a vegetarian.  She is confident in her decisions.  She is confident in who she is and doesn't let other people or what's "popular" sway her.

Megan has taught me:
3.  How to be silly - As a mom, I have a lot on my plate.  Most days, I'm too focused on schedules and logistics.  Megan, on the other hand, is a lot more "go with the flow."  She loves to be silly and, even when I don't want to, she makes me laugh.  When she was 4, I went into a conference with her PreK teacher and, honestly, expected to hear that Megan talks too much or doesn't focus.  Instead, her teacher started off by saying, "I love Megan because she is just so joyful!"  That's true.  Megan makes people smile.  Megan makes me laugh.  Megan reminds me that, sometimes, it's o.k. to be silly.
4.  Bravery - Megan has no fear.  She started playing soccer last spring and, when the team was short a goalie, she jumped in without giving it a second thought.  It turns out that she loves to play goalie, but she never would have known if she hadn't tried it so fearlessly.  She tries new things with very little hesitation.  I strive to be a brave as she is.

Emily has taught me:
5.  Faith -  As an adult, I think it is only natural that we questions things we cannot completely understand.  Not Emily.  She seems to have this innate faith in God and goodness.  She once told me that the best things in life are God, Family, Red Velvet (frozen yogurt),  and Firehouse Subs!  In her sweet mind, those are the most important things in life and I think it's pretty special that she put God first even at the age of six.  Faith that strong is not easy to achieve.
6.  Princesses do exist - Emily is most certainly the "girliest" of my three daughters.  She only wears dresses or skirts/skorts - the fancier the better.  She dislikes bugs and getting dirty.   She loves all things pink and frilly.  Of course, she loves princesses and castles, too.  She is my little princess and reminds me that anything is possible with a little imagination.  

Motherhood has taught me:
7.  Patience -  I think most parents would agree that nothing can try your patience like a child.  From temper tantrums to whining to sibling rivalry to constant messes, there are time when we want to yell or curse or just run away.  Parenthood takes a great deal of restraint sometimes.  When we think we are completely out of patience, we have to dig deeper and find more.
8.  Strength -  Childbirth itself is an act of physical strength, but that's only the beginning.  We have to  find strength to keep going after sleepless nights and through sickness or injury.  We have to find emotional strength to endure letting them "cry it out" or to let them go to school for the first time or to put our foot down despite hearing "You're the worst mom!"  As a mother, I have found strength that, previously, I didn't know I possessed.
9.  Not to be judgmental - I admit that I am often too quick to judge.  Children, however, are not unless we teach them to be so.  Knowing that children are always in earshot has taught me to choose my words carefully and wisely.  Seeing things through their eyes has taught me to see the positive and to not judge so swiftly.
10.  Unconditional love - I love my parents and my brother.  I love my husband.  However, there is absolutely no love that compares to the love you feel for your child.  It is a love that you cannot fully comprehend until you have experienced it firsthand.  Sometimes I look at them and think my heart may just burst.  Being a mother has taught me the true meaning of unconditional, all-encompassing love.      


19 comments:

The Dose of Reality said...

Love this list! Off to think about what my kids have taught me! :)-Ashley

Tamara Bowman said...

Such a cool idea. I am amazed at how many traits my oldest got that are nothing like mine. For so long I just thought of her as an extension of me and now I realize - "Nope, totally her own person!" She tries scary rides at amusement parks. She's not rigid. She's not anxious. I envy/love all of those things about her.

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

:-) Thanks Ashley!

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Isn't it fun to see them becoming their own little person? :-)

Michelle Nahom said...

Love this! My kids are so different! I have one of those determined and super self confident kids too!

Sarah @ LeftBrainBuddha said...

Great list - I love your daughter's "best things in life" - too cute!

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Thanks, Michelle!

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Thank you Sarah!

TK said...

That's just beautiful, it's surprising what wonderful human beings children can be. We just have to observe, and there's something special about every one of them.

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Thank you TK! There is definitely something special about each and every child!

Kristi - Finding Ninee said...

Gorgeous post, Lisa. Your daughters are wise and wonderful and obviously have excellent taste because YUM to Firehouse Subs! In fact, now I want one! And you're right - there is no love like the love that we have for our children.

Kenya G. Johnson said...

Love #9. This is so true. I was ready to be mad at one of Christopher's friends for the rest of my life. It was within an hour of one of their little rifts that Christopher wanted to go over to his house. I said, "Didn't yall just fall out?" He said, "Yeah but we are fine now." I wanted to list all the grown up reasons for not wanting a friend who made me feel bad but it wasn't necessary. Then I had to reflect back all the times that my sleepovers fell apart within the hours before my friend had to go home or vice versa. I also love #3 - I think I've never been so silly as I am in moments with Christopher. He has seen sides of me that my husband hasn't even seen.

Jean said...

I like how you arranged this to show the unique traits each child has that contributed to your "lessons." She once told me that the best things in life are God, Family, Red Velvet (frozen yogurt), and Firehouse Subs! OMG LOVE!

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Thanks, Kenya! I often tend to bee too serious. I love that she makes me laugh (she gets that from her daddy!) :-)

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Thanks, Jean! I loved that quote, too! I'm glad I thought to include it here so we can remember it forever! :-)

MotheringFromScratch said...

{Melinda} I always say that God has used my kids -- more than anything else in my life -- to shape my character and draw me closer to Him. My daughter has taught me to be more spontaneous. My son (with cystic fibrosis) has taught me a quiet strength. I am so grateful for both of them. They both make me a better person. :)

AnnMarie Gubenko said...

How in the world did I miss this??? I love this so much. This makes me want to know your girls. I feel like I do but the way you describe them. I would like all of those traits for myself. :)

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Aw! Thanks AnnMarie! I would definitely like to have all of those traits myself, too! :-)

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Yes - my kids make me better too and I am very grateful for the blessing of being their mom!

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