Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Tuesday Ten Linkup - Things I Should Say More Often

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Have you heard of the Kid President??  He is pretty funny, super cute, and his YouTube videos are pretty inspirational.  I saw this one a couple months ago in which he is sharing 20 things he thinks people need to say more often:
Naturally, it got me to thinking about that things I say and some things that, maybe I should say more often.  We thought it would make a fun Tuesday Ten list!  So, here are ten things I should say more often:

1.  "No." - Did you read this post of my Top Ten Sign You Might Be A Volunteeraholic??  I used to be one.  I am learning to say no more often, to really think about what I am commitng to.  IT's getting easier, but my first instinct is usually to say "Sure!"

2.  "Let it go!" - Cue the frozen soundtrack . . . .
I tend to worry about things and overanalyze some situations.  I don't like things to be unresolved.  Sometimes, I just need to Let. It. Go.

3.  "I'm proud of you!" Of course, I'm proud of my daughters.  They are beautiful, smart, good people.  I find myself being a little nit-picky sometimes, though.  Instead of saying, "Great job on your spelling test!" I say "You didn't use your best handwriting, did you?"  I think they know I am proud of them, but I need to tell them more often.

4.  "Yes!" or "Why Not?" - Obviously, this is in contrast to my #1, but I mean it in a different context.  I'm not big on trying new things.  I tend to be apprehensive.  Recently, we took my daughters ice skating.  They wanted me to get on the ice and I immediately said "No!  Mommy doesn't skate!  I just like watching you!"  I should have said "Yes!"  I might probably would have fallen down, but my girl would have loved it!

5.  "Please!" - Sometimes, I feel like a drill sergeant barking orders.  "Eat your breakfast.  Brush your teeth.  Get your coat on!"  I'm certain I could speak a little more kindly by simply adding a "please" to many of my requests.

6.  "Slow Down." - I feel like I am always rushing - dashing to get here and there, speeding to get dinner on the table so bedtime remains on schedule, hurrying to my kids out the door.  I need to work on preparation so that I can say "Slow Down - we have plenty of time!" instead of "Hurry, hurry!  We've got to GO!!!"

7.  "Because I said so!" - My kids like to whine - the two youngest in particular.  When they are told "no," they whine/argue back.  "But, mom {reason/whine/reason/whine}.  I put up with it too long and admit that, occasionally, I just give in.  I need to be better about putting my foot down.

8.  "You have my undivided attention!"- Last week, we listed the things that distract us.  With all of those distractions, my husband and kids rarely have my complete attention.  I am typing while talking or cooking while helping with homework.  Even when I am typing a blog post, I am drawn away by Facebook or email notifications.  I need to be able to say "Kids/Hubby/Blog, you have my total attention!" and completely focus on them when they need me.

9.  "Hi! How are you?"- My hubby can strike up a conversation with anyone.  Me - not so much.  I am an introvert.  I rarely speak to new people unless I am spoken to first.  I am a little uncomfortable in unfamiliar social situations.  I need to be more relaxed.  Sometimes, I need to be the one who says "Hello!" to the other person on the elevator!

10.  "I Love You!"- I tell my kids and my husband I love them every day.  I tell my extended family members.  I do - I promise.  However, there can simply never be too many "I Love You's!"

How about you??  What things should you probably say more often??  Link up a post and tell us!

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20 comments:

MamaRabia said...

I have been saying "let it go" a lot over here lately. Mostly to my middle son who tends to be a bit uptight. I think the song makes it easier for him to hear.

Janine Huldie said...

Number one is so my number one two, because I tend to want to say yes to everything and then totally take on more then I can. And loved the "Let It Go" reference to Frozen. My girls know all the words to that song and definitely on of their favorite movies, so totally put a smile on my face this morning :)

Ashley Linder said...

You timing is impeccable. After such a rough morning with the girls today, I needed to read this. Having said that, I now feel guiltier than I did (lol). But the reminder was very much needed. Thank you so very much!!

Ginnymarie said...

I definitely agree with you about saying please! I expect my kids to say it, and then so often when I tell them what to do I forget to add "please!"

Marcia Shaw Wyatt said...

I love your list, Lisa and can completely relate to so many of the items you listed! The one, however, that stood out the most to me was: "You Have My Undivided Attention." LIke you, I need to give others my undivided attention more than I've been doing in recent months. Bill (my husband) will be telling me something - some story he wants to share with me - but my mind is focused on my next blog post or my To-Do list for the day while he's talking and my ears are only half-listening to him. I can remember years and years ago when I used to complain that he didn't talk enough. Now he does and he deserves my full attention. So glad you included that in your list. Thank you! :)

Emily Hackethorn said...

I almost came back today! My post is about being squirrely, among other things. Guess that shows me, a week behind. :) I love this prompt, too!

Cellulite Looks Better Tan said...

I am so in tune with many of your 10. Although, I have no problem saying, "no" to volunteering, even though I have a good friend on the PTA who stalks me, and I have no problem saying "yes" to one more glass of wine and 20 more minutes of T.V. I think maybe I should reverse these two...but then I'll have to volunteer. Well, maybe just occasionally...

Kim said...

I love your prompt for this Tuesday Ten. Some great things on your list - I think I need to remember the "Please" one more often especially with my husband and boys.

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

I get too caught up on little things that, in the bigger scheme, really don't matter. That's when I have to tell myself to let it go! It does help to have the chorus of that song start playing in my brain! :-)

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Thanks Janine! I said yes so much that I crashed and burned! I learned that hard way that I HAVE to say no sometimes. I still feel guilty when I do, though!

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Aw! We all have those mornings! Say the last one a few extra times this afternoon and it will all bee just fine!

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Yes! We have to practice what we preach~

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Thanks, Marcia! It's hard to give anything or anyone our undivided attention because there seems to be so many other things pulling on us these days. It's important, though!

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

HA! Well, this one will be open through Friday if you want to make your list and link up. If not, maybe next week!!! :-)

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Ha! Don't reverse them too much! :-)

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Thanks Kim! I catch myself barking orders all the time and need to remember to give the the courtesy I expect in return.

MamaRabia said...

I just brought this up at dinner the other night! We had a bit of trouble with the "I" because I don't think everything you say needs to be inspiring. I like your idea of changing it to "intelligent" because my kids talk a lot of nonsense!!

CocoaCali said...

I could definitely stand to say "You have my undivided attention." It's so easy to get busy and feel like you're being pulled in so many directions that you CAN'T devote that time to someone else... but you can. For a bit at least. Thank you for the reminder and the wonderful list :)

Lisa @ The Golden Spoons said...

Thank you, too! I agree that we are pulled in many directions. It's hard to focus, but it's important! :-)

MolleyMills said...

Agreed! Let's start a movement. Oh wait, you start the movement I'll support it. Thanks for hooking up to the Hump Day Hook Up

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