tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post753685358981612312..comments2023-06-25T05:06:09.098-04:00Comments on The Golden Spoons: Does Being a Stay At Home Mom Set a Good Example for my Daughters?Lisa Witherspoonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12530852104410009597noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-975520489972770082014-01-27T21:21:50.154-05:002014-01-27T21:21:50.154-05:00I agree Ilene! I think that showing them they hav...I agree Ilene! I think that showing them they have options and freedom to choose is the most important thing.Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-72552788806170928212014-01-27T21:18:46.945-05:002014-01-27T21:18:46.945-05:00Thanks, Sarah! I certainly hope that's what t...Thanks, Sarah! I certainly hope that's what they are learning from me! :-)Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-91200242451059069062014-01-27T21:18:05.194-05:002014-01-27T21:18:05.194-05:00I agree that the blog has given me a sense of acco...I agree that the blog has given me a sense of accomplishment and I think my girls see that - especially when I was published in a book. They thought that was really awesome!Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-79347866047715169412014-01-27T21:07:20.765-05:002014-01-27T21:07:20.765-05:00love, love, love this Lisa. I can tell you that ha...love, love, love this Lisa. I can tell you that having been raised by a mom who loved her work so much she couldn't even find the time to come to my soccer games, what you are giving your daughters... time, love, attention, is far more of an example than anything you could ever teach them by working. xoKat Biggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-77198274566143407482014-01-27T15:25:39.087-05:002014-01-27T15:25:39.087-05:00what a gorgeous, heartfelt post. I love it. I on...what a gorgeous, heartfelt post. I love it. I only have sons and I still have the same thoughts: "am I teaching them to be nontraditional in the way they think of women or traditional." Mind games, I tell you, but thinking of these things is precisely what makes us great parents.Allison Chttp://godanskermom.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-85387314851616830652014-01-27T06:03:37.394-05:002014-01-27T06:03:37.394-05:00Lisa, this is such a thoughtful post and I appreci...Lisa, this is such a thoughtful post and I appreciate you contemplating this subject. I think that as long as our daughters know that they have options, we are all doing a good job. I have always worked but never said to my girls that they "have to" work as well. They know they can do what feels right and what makes them happy. AND if they are happy, their kids will be happy too. Ilene Evansnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-78592862713477381802014-01-26T12:40:04.422-05:002014-01-26T12:40:04.422-05:00I had the same internal war, Lisa. And I still thi...I had the same internal war, Lisa. And I still think about the example I'm setting for my daughter, especially now that she is starting to think about college and careers. One of the unexpected blessings about starting my blog is that she sees that her mom is more than just Mom, and I'm grateful for that. I love your take on this prompt - it's an issue that is always so interesting toDanahttp://kissmylist.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-1421906156887014302014-01-25T15:16:47.345-05:002014-01-25T15:16:47.345-05:00Although I did teach for a few years, I kind of fe...Although I did teach for a few years, I kind of feel like my degree and college education is going to waste. But, my girls know I went to college and we continually stress the importance of them going to college, too, so they will have the freedom to make choices when the time comes.Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-21744970792963557942014-01-25T15:14:34.554-05:002014-01-25T15:14:34.554-05:00Yes it is! Although I always wanted to do exactly...Yes it is! Although I always wanted to do exactly what I'm doing, it is very different now that I have the perspective of actually being a mom to these three girls!Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-67127081048160415642014-01-25T15:13:49.740-05:002014-01-25T15:13:49.740-05:00I hope she will! :-)I hope she will! :-)Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-48503899632639070932014-01-25T08:16:23.967-05:002014-01-25T08:16:23.967-05:00Great post Lisa. I have a hang up for a different ...Great post Lisa. I have a hang up for a different reason. I worked until Christopher was 4. My husband was getting ready to deploy and for so many reasons it was going to be easier and I was getting my degree at the same time. I never/haven't gone back. Christopher doesn't remember that I worked so he can't appreciate the differences. Your baby - twenty kids and an RV - she's Kenya G. Johnsonhttp://www.kenyagjohnson.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-23158368092426357422014-01-24T20:52:41.055-05:002014-01-24T20:52:41.055-05:00I love that one of the top things you teach your d...I love that one of the top things you teach your daughters is to do what makes you happy!!! That is something we have told our boys for years!!!<br />And, I'm cracking up at your 9 year old saying that being a mom is too hard - she is a wise child but one day she will realize (maybe) that the rewards far out weigh how hard it is!!Kimnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-36475657675742270102014-01-24T15:07:16.926-05:002014-01-24T15:07:16.926-05:00I think that by being a stay at home mom you are b...I think that by being a stay at home mom you are being an amazing example for your girls! They see that you have it all, you have a college education, you had a career and you CHOOSE to stay at home with them because that is what is most imporant to you. My mother was both a stay at home mom and a working mom at different times in my childhood. I was a work outside the house mom when my Angelanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-6641792150464140622014-01-24T11:50:48.592-05:002014-01-24T11:50:48.592-05:00Ha! Thanks Ryan! Yes, the teenage years will be ...Ha! Thanks Ryan! Yes, the teenage years will be interesting! I think it is so funny that my middle one wants to be a teacher because she is soooooo NOT structured and organized. Her room looks like a hurricane came through and she would forget to take her head with her if it wasn't attached.<br /><br /><br />I think some of it boils down to personality. I have friends who, like you, Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-55245222376358170932014-01-24T11:48:05.848-05:002014-01-24T11:48:05.848-05:00I am very grateful, too, that we have the freedom ...I am very grateful, too, that we have the freedom to choose. That's what I want to make sure my girls know - being a SAHM is what I chose, but it's not what they have to choose. :-)Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-77247617805557587582014-01-24T11:18:49.897-05:002014-01-24T11:18:49.897-05:00Being a working mom, I give a ton of credit to mom...Being a working mom, I give a ton of credit to mom's who choose to stay home. Personally, I think it's much easier to go to work all day than stay at home with children so kudos to you for being able to have that kind of patience. I wish I had it lol. <br /><br />I laugh at your daughter's responses because I am the oldest of two sisters and the personalities seem to be the same That Girl ryannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-9317247412400240692014-01-24T09:55:07.510-05:002014-01-24T09:55:07.510-05:00I've worked for as long as I've had childr...I've worked for as long as I've had children. In fact, I got pregnant the first semester of my first teaching position and had Frances 6 weeks into my second year. I left the public school and taught in a private pre-school for five years and was able to spend loads of time with my kids because they we in care at the pre-school where I taught. Then two and a half years ago, I made the MamaRabianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-33452073984396894312014-01-24T08:50:08.657-05:002014-01-24T08:50:08.657-05:00Thanks, Lisa! Most of the time I am comfortable w...Thanks, Lisa! Most of the time I am comfortable with my decision, but once in a while a little doubt creeps in. It definitely gives me comfort to hear their aspirations and be able to know they are getting it. In the end, all any mom wants is to do what's best for her kids.Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-74134837727165441022014-01-24T08:47:31.693-05:002014-01-24T08:47:31.693-05:00That's awesome Teresa! It IS definitely worki...That's awesome Teresa! It IS definitely working! I just want to make sure my daughters know they have other options if they choose. It's good to hear a lovely success story like yours!Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-9029307728019555652014-01-24T08:45:52.586-05:002014-01-24T08:45:52.586-05:00I completely get it, Kristi! My husband has that ...I completely get it, Kristi! My husband has that fancy corporate job now. He travels all over the country and, because he is very good at his job, gets lots of accolades and awards. Meanwhile, I'm at home doing elementary school homework, hauling kids to piano lessons, and haggling over bedtimes. I admit that sometimes I get very jealous. That contributes a great deal to my conflict Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-40509094979959188942014-01-24T08:39:58.685-05:002014-01-24T08:39:58.685-05:00When my kids were younger, we had plenty of money ...When my kids were younger, we had plenty of money issues, too. Fortunately, that's a lot better now. Just like you said, I want them to see that this was MY path, but it's o.k. if it's not theirs.Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-63506436076651917702014-01-24T08:38:47.073-05:002014-01-24T08:38:47.073-05:00I hope they do, Jean! Thanks for the encouragemen...I hope they do, Jean! Thanks for the encouragement to write it!Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-5850403864164615242014-01-24T08:38:20.773-05:002014-01-24T08:38:20.773-05:00I know what you mean. My husband travels a lot fo...I know what you mean. My husband travels a lot for his job, so if I worked full time there's no way my kids could do all the extracurriculars they do.Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-50953189423117751462014-01-24T08:37:15.208-05:002014-01-24T08:37:15.208-05:00Thanks Janine! If they end up happy then we'v...Thanks Janine! If they end up happy then we've done our job!Lisa @ The Golden Spoonshttp://www.the-golden-spoons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4109556486849297351.post-65649639432833008822014-01-24T08:12:16.709-05:002014-01-24T08:12:16.709-05:00I love this. Like you, I've never had a mommy ...I love this. Like you, I've never had a mommy war with another mom. I couldn't even imagine it. People have got to do what's best for their families. BUT...I've been both a practicing physician and a SAHM...and I have fought within my self wondering --either way---was I doing what was right for my family. I'm at peace with my choices and like you, I think my own internal war The Dose of Realityhttp://TheDoseofReality.com/noreply@blogger.com