It is a sound principle. Even with a map or GPS in hand, you cannot plan your route if you do not know your final destination.
This is a tough one for me. I'm a planner, not a "go with the flow" kind of gal. But when they asked this question, I didn't have an answer. (In fact, I have a whole blog post in my queue about the whole thing!)
I started this blog totally on a whim in February 2010. I had no idea at the time that blogging was "a thing." I had no idea that people actually made money doing it or that there was such vast community of bloggers out there in the world. In spring 2013, I sat in front of my computer typing a blog post about how I was missing a sense of self accomplishment in my life; about how I felt like everything I was doing was for someone else. As I stared at the computer screen, it hit me that I did have something that was for me - my blog. It was one thing that I controlled completely. By then, I had seen other bloggers making it big and I decided to really give it a try.
In the past nine months, my blog has grown tremendously. I have "met" so many other bloggers and made so many connections. I have had posts published on other sites and I've been published in a book! But, is that enough?? Where do I go from here???
My problem now is that I have no "ultimate" goal in mind. I thought having a post on Scary Mommy was the pinnacle and was going to propel me to huge popularity. It didn't. (It was, however, wonderful and a fantastic honor.) Similarly, being in a book has been a wonderful honor and has enabled me to form a lovely, supportive community of blogging friends. It did not, however, catapult any of us to stardom ( . .yet . . ).
So, what do I want from this blogging endeavor?? When will my blogging accomplishments be enough to satisfy me??
Well, unfortunately, I still don't have an exact answer for those questions. I know I want it to continue to grow. I know I would love to actually make money from writing some day, but I am not into sponsored posts, etc. - just not for me. Beyond that, I'm still trying to decipher how I define blogging success.
I also know that, I have thrown myself into it with abandon. I know that I have become a
I also think that, as the old saying goes, sometimes we can't see the forest for the trees. I have been so engrossed by it all, that perhaps I am not able to see the bigger picture and define my goals. I have taken a bit of a break from it over the past week or so, and I have noticed a marked difference in my personal stress level.
With all that in mind, I am setting a few goals for myself and my blog in 2014:
1) I am putting myself on a blogging schedule. Right now, my goal is to make Wednesdays my blog day. The one day I let myself spend the whole day in front of my computer writing, scheduling, submitting - whatever. The one day I give myself a pass on the housework. The one day I allow myself to be consumed by my blog. The other days?? Blogging, reading, commenting, and social media will be done as I have time - AFTER all of my other responsibilities have been addressed.
2) I am shutting the computer down between 3:00-7:00pm when my girls are home and turning if off at 9:00pm if my hubby is home. My girls deserve more than just a piece of my attention when they are home and it is not fair when I sit on the couch engrossed in social media rather than conversing with my hubby. (Except on Thursday evenings, of course, web I have to link up my FTSF posts!)
3) I am going to continue trying to grow my blog, but without putting so much pressure on myself and getting so caught up in the stats. Although it is difficult for me, I am going to try very hard to keep the green-eyed jealousy monster at bay and be satisfied with myself.
I am starting to find a place where I am content - not to be confused with complacent. I never want my blog to stop growing and evolving. Hopefully, though, by putting some limits and schedules in place, I can stop being overwhelmed by blogging, take stock of the things I have accomplished, and learn to be content with where I am.
So how about you?? If you are a blogger, what are your goals?? How do you define blogging success??
One more thing I'm doing in 2014 is turning my Tuesday Ten Posts into a linkup party!!! I'll be co-hosting with Rabia from The Liebers. Similar to FTSF, each week we will be giving the topic for the coming week's list. Our first one will go live on Tuesday, January 7 and the topic will be New Year's Resolutions!! Type up your list of resolutions and come link up with us!! :-)
This post was written as part of Finish The Sentence Friday. FTSF is hosted by some wonderful blogging ladies. Please give them a visit and check out all the other blogs that participate as well!
Janine at Janine’s Confessions of a Mommyaholic
Stephanie at Mommy, for Real
Kristi at Finding Ninee