Thursday, November 29, 2012

5 Reasons We Do Not Have An Elf On The Shelf

It's that time of year again - everyone is posting pictures of their Elf's creative adventures. Not at our house - We do not have an elf.  Why have I deprived my children of this super fun tradition you might ask- let me explain.

I will start by saying that I am absolutely NOT trying to insult anyone who has an elf on the shelf. If you have one and can remember to move it every night and are creative enough to concoct all kinds of elf mischief that's wonderful!!! I actually kind of admire you. I also realize, however, that I am not that person. So, in my defense, here are the reasons we do not and will not have an elf on the shelf in our house:

1. In the evenings, after our busy days, it is all I can do to remember to pack lunches, fold the laundry, turn on the dishwasher, and shower myself.  This time of year I also have to add to the list watering the Christmas tree, planning school parties, and getting all the shopping done.  I DO NOT need anything else to remember every night and I would inevitably forget.  Often.

2. That brings me to the second reason - the lies!!  Now don't get me wrong, I love Santa.  I love helping the kids make their lists and shopping for their items.  I love seeing their faces light up on Christmas morning.  However, as the kids get older, it gets more and more difficult to continue the charade.  (In fact, my oldest who is 10, has known the truth for about 2 years now.)  I find myself having to work really hard to spin some serious yarn in an effort to keep the myth going.  Some of the questions I have gotten in the past couple years:
"Why do they do "Toy for Tots, etc.  Doesn't Santa bring toys to the poor kids??" 
"Why can't I get all 271 items on my list??  Santa doesn't have to pay for them because his elves make everything!"
"How come Santa is at this store when my friend said they saw him at that store?"
"Are you sure it's o.k. to put glitter in the reindeer food?  It might be bad for them."

Now, if my kids are already asking questions like these and I am wracking my brain to answer them "correctly," can you imagine what would happen if when I forget to move Mr. Elf or when one of them accidentally touches him???  I simply refuse to set myself up for that kind of drama! 

3. The third reason is that I spend my whole life cleaning up messes - washing laundry, washing dishes,  sorting through paper, picking up toys and shoes, wiping spills...  Why on Earth would I endeavor to create even more messes that I will undoubtedly have to clean up as well?!?!?  Oh, the elf baked cookies and made a big mess with the flour? Who is going to clean up that flour???  Last night he took all the toys out of the toy box??  Who do you think is going to put them back in???  Or maybe he had a marshmallow snowball fight with Barbie.  Who is going to pick up all those marshmallows???  (Well, probably the dog in that case.  But that could lead to an entirely different kind of mess if you know what I mean!)  To me, this sounds like nothing short of torture - spend hours on Pinterest researching ideas, work tirelessly and tediously to set up elf mischief every night for at least 25 nights, then clean up all of those messes myself.  It is just not common sense-ical folks!!!

4. For my fourth reason, I am going to have to get on my soapbox just a bit.  I know a lot of you out there find the whole thing fun and do it for the sake of tradition and, again, that is fantastic.  However, I have also heard many parents rave about how well their children behave during the weeks before Christmas because they know that "Elfie" is watching.  Personally, I have a problem with that.  I don't want my children to behave just because they are afraid of getting in trouble if they don't or just because  they are hoping for big rewards in the end.  I want my children to behave because they know, intrinsically, that it is the right thing to do.  And, I want them to behave this way ALL THE TIME - not only when there is the threat of a psychotic elf looming over their heads.  Am I being a tad over analytical?? Perhaps.  O.K. Probably.  But, that is how I feel.  The first time I heard about the elf that is how it was presented to me - as a way to make your kids behave - and it just left a sour taste in my mouth that I have never forgotten.

5.  The final reason I don't participate is that I refuse to simply succumb to the madness and jump on the bandwagon.  Obviously, I am not a big fan of the Elf.  I can envision it creating much hassle and drama in this household.  However, I have honestly considered doing it because I didn't want my kids to miss out.  I didn't want them to be the only ones who haven't experienced this fun tradition just because their mom was too lazy to do it.  But is it worth the stress and commotion it would surely create??  Are my children going to be permanently scarred if we don't get an elf???  I have decided the answer to both of those questions is "NO!"

**Disclaimer:  I hesitated to post this one for fear that it would offend others and I am sure that I will receive some not so nice comments, but again, I reiterate that I absolutely do not mean this as an insult to anyone who has an elf and loves the elf.  If it works for your family, that is your decision and I completely respect it.  I am not judging; I am simply expressing my point of view.

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Martha said...

oh lisa - I'm almost laughing too hard to type! I am SO RIGHT THERE WITH YOU on this issue! And you listed every reason that I would list, if I were going to write this post... but you left one out: The Creep Factor. An elf that "watches" you and reports back to Santa?!? Ick! And the Elf's face is rather clown-like, in my opinion and I am anything but fond of a clown.

The Elf on the Shelf is a tradition that I don't get at all. Who has the time or energy for this kind of nonsense?

Great post! Elf Refusers Unite!

Anonymous said...

I had also decided I didn't want to deal with an elf when he first came out, and then we were "gifted" with one - so last year, he moved whenever he was remembered, and this year when I actually have more time to deal with him, we didn't bring him overseas - maybe he'll disappear when we return home:-)

Shoes said...

I love this and am completely with you on all of this! When I first saw the Elf many years ago, when Cody was 2 and Carter was just a new born, I thought it was such a fun idea, but now that I am living the crazy Christmas times with kids I don't need more crazy.

I like simple, truthful traditions (that lack the creepy factor). Traditions like watching Christmas movies, going to our small town Christmas tree lighting, and giving each boy a new Christmas ornament that I write their name and the year on so they can keep them for the years to come.

I am down on the Elf and proud of it! :-)

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